It’s always so sought after idea that a guy is always the one to make the first move when it’s sex. But has anyone ever given it a thought, that a girl could have needs to.
She might not always be happy in one place or with one person. She might have needs, which takes more than one person to fulfil. She might be judged for this, people may think she is no less than a slut, but it is sometimes what makes her happy.
Dealing with multiple partners seems more easy than to deal with the burden of emotional drama.
She had one guy in mind whom she liked, he was responding too. They both went out with each other couple of times. He didn’t make the first move, she did. They got drunk one day, and she was already high. He tried to get a cab and drop her home to her place but she insisted to go his instead. He had no options, he liked her too.
He asked the cab to take U-turn to his place, and they reached within 15 minutes. He gave her some water, caresses her hair. Suddenly she was looking at him in a strange way with half dizzy eyes and he was lost unable to understand what was happening as it gave him chills the way she looked at him.
Her hands held his, and she came closer to kiss him, but to her horror he pushed her away and stood up. He didn’t say a word and looked away from her, she tried to hold his hands again, but he jerked it off.
His heart was beating faster and so was hers, suddenly she understood what had happened and she felt embarrassed. She was already back in her senses and there was an awkward silence. He gently held her and tucked her into bed and he slept on the sofa down the hallway.
Next morning she woke up and tip toed out of his apartment. Neither of them called each other ever again, she deleted his number.
They used to ignore each other whenever they came across as they shared common friends. She was confused that why he pushed her away. She was attracted to him not like the way he was to her. He wanted to wait and take it slow, but she never wanted the same.
Did it ring a bell!! She felt unwanted, and somehow her confidence just took the backseat. He did owe her an explanation she thought, he was the first guy who had actually denied her of sex, and she was taken aback as before him she had absolutely no difficulty whatsoever to sleep with whichever guys she wanted.
She was cool with them not calling back and she too didn’t want to be bothered with strings attached or emotional baggage, but his was a different situation. It hurt her EGO and she felt less in front of him and somehow she thought she was weak…..
He was shocked too that how did she make the first move and he didn’t expect this at all. He thought he would tell her how he liked her and that he is thinking about them like a long term plan….But as they say Girls too can make the first move, and it’s just a taboo that girls don’t have needs, they do and sometimes more than guys.
This is just my opinion, about girls making their first move and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. But what do you guys think of this? Let me know in the comments below.
I think making the first move can be done by anyone – hey if you want it you gotta go for it or you may miss it!
True…when you want something you have to go for it!! Thanks for your comment :)
I think it doesn’t matter who makes the first move, but I have seen something like this play out before where the man “rejects” the girl if that move is made too “early” and he imagines a more long-term relationship. I usually see this explained tho to stop any awkwardness or feelings of rejection. Different strokes for different folks!
Appreciate your opinion on this. Thanks for reading….. ??
I do not think it should be programmed how is the first, it’s more sentimental , who feel it the most
I agree …its more of that feeling when u have for someone and u just wanna get it…cant resist that urge. Thanks for reading ?
Hmm…I always think that males have to make the 1st move, I know am a bit conservative :) thanks for this lovely sharing :D cheers, siennylovesdrawing
Glad that you liked it, hoping to write more pieces like this. Thanks ??
In my opinion, gender should never be an issue when it comes to who makes the 1st move. Women are already empowered these days. They should take advantage of that. We guys would surely appreciate it.
I appreciate your thoughts. Thanks for reading! :)
Hope they both find their perfect partner soon t lead a happy life :)
Thanks Sanjota for the Happy Ending Expectation :)
It doesn’t matter who makes the first move, it’s problematic when you can’t read the signals, so you don’t know should you make the first move, rejection hurts, especially if you have been meeting and hanging out for a long time, it hurts like hell, but it should pass with time.
True the heart break that comes with rejection is often tough to handle especially when it involves something like this which is there in my post. thanks for reading though :)
This is a very informative post about rejection and ego.
Glad you liked it. Thanks for reading! Hope to hear more from you. :)
Love is the language of the heart. No actions or words needed because if the feeling is mutual, you’ll both find yourselves in the perfect spot without worrying about hurting ego. The thing is, when love is present, ego doesn’t exist.
I appreciate your thought :) Thanks !
Emotions should be and are equal in arelationship so no big deal about who makes the move first
The girl just wanted it casually and the guy thought of the long term possibility and none of them opened up to each other, and hence things between them went wrong. Thanks for reading :)
Interesting take on the subject. I think it’s important to get to know someone before making any moves. They were drunk and acting while under the influence of anything is never a good idea.
I agree and probably it is the miscommunication that made things weird between them as none of them really confessed what they wanted. Thanks for dropping by! :)
This is so intense. I think in a successful relationship both the partners emotions are important and so its not really important who makes the first move.
Thanks for the thought, and glad you all liked it. :) Thanks for reading.
I always initiate the first move. Life is too short to wait forever.
Just what I had in my mind when I wrote this piece. Great things don’t wait for us in life, Thanks for reading :)
This is a very interesting post and point of view
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for the read :)
I’ve always had more needs than my male partners but I’ve never been rejected either – I guess I’m lucky. I couldn’t cope with that type of embarrassment .
Agreed. Rejection is tough to handle. Thanks for reading though. :)
ANybody can make the first move regardless of the gender. I have taken initiative in the past, but never been rejected. I understand the ego part. But for me, it would have been more of feeling of inferiority and losing confidence. I would question myself on what I don’t have, and If I am lacking as a woman.
True. Appreciate your thought. Thanks :)
thats such an important post. everyone should read it. will share it for sure
Thanks :)
Making the first move can be difficult for any gender. Great read.
Thanks for the read and appreciate your thoughts :)
Its nice for women to initiate the first women from time to time. Nice viewpoint and good article.
Thanks :)
Sorry i meant to say the first move