In simple terms, if you are in a relationship that you don’t want or it’s having a negative effect on your psychological health can be termed as a toxic relationship. In today’s world, it is one of the most popular issues in dating and Relationships.
In this post, you will see the top reasons, why you keep falling in a toxic relationship and how you can go ahead and break the cycle for the same…
Toxic relationships make you feel proud and satisfied.
Narcissistic people are pretty good at making things perfect for you. They have special powers to influence, manipulate and ultimately control you. The other person will lure with all kinds of surprises, commitments and lifetime promises, which is logically impossible for anyone to commit. If you are slightly looking for an emotional commitment, you tend to fall for it. The most important warning at this sign will be a very quick commitment.
It is really challenging to move on from a toxic relationship.
As stated in my previous post, how hard the grip of a Narcissistic person, it is very hard to come out of the trap. Moreover, if you are already isolated from your friends and families, most of the options are already closed, and thinking about the short term, it is very hard to start everything afresh from the start. In this stage, the victim is already addicted to the Narcissist.
Sometimes it’s OK to adjust.
We think that it is okay to adjust a few things here and there for living together, and that’s completely fine for every couple. I understand that but trust me, that’s the thing where it all starts. We keep on adjusting each and everything, and it just becomes the normal thing. If you are the one who is expected to adjust to every position, it’s not all a sign of a healthy relationship.
Toxic relationships are damn addictive.
People start loving the boundaries created by their partners. It all starts with small jealousy about one friend. As the days pass, the walls get stronger and higher. The victim thinks that the partner is being protective. I have personally seen many people leaving best friends, just to be with a person who is “protective”. People really seem to love that protective of their partner.
You feel like s/he is the BEST for you.
There is a false feeling created by the toxic partner, in which they are the hero of the story. The victim believes that if they move on with someone else, they won’t be happy as much they are in this relationship. Logically, we know that the person will be very happy, but they are under quite a spell now, in which the logical explanations take a back seat.
You have a fear of the unexplored.
We all have the fear of the unknown, Imagine someone who has differences with friends and families for the same relationship, they are literally scared. A victim is usually alone for a long time, and now they don’t know what is on the other side of the door. It becomes very hard for them to walk out of something they know than the unknown and unexplored.
You get a good amount of intimacy and physical satisfaction from the partner.
While there could be many issues in the relationship, but you will enjoy the complete attention of the partners, which is one of the strong points to keep the victim in the relationship. We all want attention, the more, the better. The toxic partner will use this point to his complete advantages, more than you can even imagine. Be it physical or emotional attention, the victim gets the complete part of it.
This could be the only time, someone is paying attention to you.
We, humans, are social beings and we all love attention. There could be issues with the past relationship, where you were not the center of the attraction. In this relationship, the victim enjoys a good amount of reaction. Don’t trade your independence and happiness for a little amount of attention.
You love challenges in your relationships.
You really love challenges in your life, and you want to change the asshole to a saint, while we all appreciate the challenging attitude for the greater good. However please be careful, that your little step in the wrong direction doesn’t turn in to a nightmare.
You’ve Faced Abuse In your previous Relationships
Being abusive can be very harmful in a relationship and it should not be tolerated at any cost. Be it physical or verbal. Please seek help as soon as possible. If you are out of it and if you are falling for the same kind of relationship, you need to remind yourself of the hell you’ve been through.
Now that you have read about the signs about the addiction of getting into a toxic relationship, let’s get into steps to avoid it and how to break the cycle for the same. The most important point here is admitting that there’s a problem.
These are the steps to avoid the toxic relationship:
Take your own time to know the person better and hold your horses.
When we are attracted to someone, we try to get closer to the person as soon as possible, even for physical intimacy. Humans are known to get closer when physical intimacy is involved. Take your own time to know the person better, be it getting physically involved, or taking the relationship to the next step.
Never ignore your gut feelings/red flags/warnings.
Whenever you see something wrong, make sure you do a bit of research, before concluding, that it’s nothing. Gut feelings tell us, which our eyes tend to miss. In the very beginning, there are obvious signs that the person is a narcissist or controlling. Watch out for those signs.
Keep your dignity and self-respect important.
Self-respect is very important, in every kind of relationship. Forget relationships, as a human being, you should have self-respect and it should be a top priority. Adjusting for your loved one is a very good thing, which we appreciate but adjusting whether your self-respect comes to question is not a very good sign of a relationship, walk or move out. It will be good for both partners.
Try to get hold of the early signs of a bad relationship.
There are some obvious signs of a bad relationship. For example any kind of abuse: be it physical or verbal, controlling behavior, getting too clingy or something which the other person is not comfortable about. Act as soon as possible for a quick escape. You can’t change the other person, so I don’t think there’s any point in trying too hard to change the other person as per your requirements.
To conclude the post,
You are the best judge of your own life, Remember, whatever decision you take in the relationship, it will have a direct effect on your mental and psychological health directly or indirectly. So take some time and decide very carefully to avoid any complications.
I will take a leave now, take care, everyone!
Credits:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_bombing
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abusive_power_and_control
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It is very hard to break free from a chain of toxic relationships because you are used to them and anything different might be scary. I think this is a main reason why people are not breaking this chain.
Completely agreed. It is very hard to break the cycle, but people should know what’s in risk.
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Toxic relationships have been on my mind a lot lately. Great post. Loved the line about you are the best judge for your life.
This is a great list for people who are struggling with this. They are so addictive. I have a friend who keeps going back to a bad relationship even though she knows it is a not a good one. Hopefully this can help people fight that urge to go back.
The most important thing is to realize that there’s something wrong. Once the realization comes, rest everything will fall into place hopefully.
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Sometimes a person doesn’t know they’re in a toxic relationship just due to the reasons described by you.
Have seen this with a colleague – she was very unhappy at times but just couldn’t leave the guy
A friend of mine kept getting into these types of relationships when we were younger. I could see a lot of red flags and didn’t understand how she didn’t/would ignore them. After reading this, I understand it a lot more and hopefully can keep her from these toxic relationships in the future. Definitely showing her this post, thanks!
Glad, we could help.
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Love all the tips given here. They can be difficult to discover once you are in this kind of relationship so if we are a friend to that person, we can whisper a prayer for her everyday. Prayer can save a person in this kind of situation.
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Amazing that many of us stay in toxic relationships because we fear change. Thanks for the post.
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I can’t agree more with you, it is a vicious cycle that needs to be stopped! I’ve been there, ughhhhhh…
We all have been there, in certain point of time.
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It’s so hard to break away sometimes. But if you don’t things can’t improve. Great article!
You couldn’t have said it better. I’m always wary of relationships where I have to compromise. Thanks for sharing this. Hope to not become the toxic partner.
Ohh… you can never get to that.
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This is very great article. And it’s very true. Sometimes in relation struggle is real. You write it very well. Healthy relationship is always need to argue through things to make it right and strong. Thank you for this!
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In relation. Always struggle is real. And this article is very right to the point. And sometimes its good to argue things and make it right in relation. Thank you for this wonderful post! It would really help a lot of people suffering toxicity in their relationship. for sure they can relate on this.
Toxicity in relation is common. But only the couple can make it through. It’s either go in better ways or bad ways. Conversation is very important. And everyone needs to adjust to make the relation in the center on them both. Thank you for this article! Its very helpful and very informative.
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It’s your own insecurities that keep you in a toxic relationship. Sometimes the fear of not finding another one cripples you and leave you unable to make a move. But at the end of the day one should remember – You are not a tree. If you don’t like it here, move to another place.
Can’t agree more.
People should move before it’s too late.
I used to get into toxic relationships a lot when I was younger. I noticed that it was because I was lonely and I didn’t want to be alone so I would end up settling in these relationships that obviously weren’t good for me even though I ignored all of the red flags. I feel like most people jump into relationships without assessing the issues because they just don’t want to be alone. It’s pretty unfortunate, but that’s why people have to learn that it’s okay to be alone and okay to remove yourself from someone that causes you negative emotions consistently.
Exactly, people need to know that it’s ok to wait for sometime than getting along with someone wrong.
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Excellent post ! I think everyone in a relationship needs to read this one !
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Narcissist people sounds common for me, the way you described it, it seems like I met a few of them, it’s so sad hearing friends leave or avoid other friends for their so called protective partners, I personally experienced something like that too. It’s so sad.
Thanks for sharing your knowledge about this type of relationship. It sounds really manipulative. Great job on this blog.
Thank you so much for your kind words. Appreciated.
This article is an eye opener. When you are inside one, you don’t even realize that a relationship is toxic. I love the reasons you have shared and I hope it will be useful for many people.
I think most everyone has been in a toxic relationship, but the truth is that those kind of relationships teach you how to be in a healthy relationship. It’s a learning experience.
Well, that’s another point of view.
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Narcissist people are really common, it’s just now we can distinguish them haha. It’s great to know more about this in case you are really in a toxic relationship.
True.
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Great advise to look for signs of an abusive relationship. It’s not always easy to realize when you are in a toxic relationship. Excellent points to consider.
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Beautiful post and you definitely give a great advise to the person who are experiencing this kind of relationship. I’ve seen a lot of friends and loved ones who is still in the toxic relationship without knowing it because of so much love that they have to the person.
Exactly, The first and the most important thing is to realize, that there is a problem in the first place.
Lets hope for the best.
Great tips for people who are in a relationship. We should know how leave from a toxic relationship.
Yep well said. Thank you for all the advice you’ve shared. Looking forward to read more post. Keep it up!
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Your words mean a lot…
Thank you so much for reading.
Toxic people usually attracts the same toxic people too, so if you are attracted to one, make sure to analyze yourself.
I feel waiting sometimes is the best policy. So many people I know of rush into relationships!
It is important to see what are the warning signs in a toxic relationship and try to avoid them if possible, even have a buddy that can help you see if the relationship is toxic or not.
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Great article. Toxic relationships are so hard to break free from.
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It’s so hard to get out of toxic relationship. Thank you for talking about it. It’s so important to talk about it
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Toxic relationship can be so bad for mental health and wellbeing over a long duration of time but as you said so easy to fall into! Really insightful post
Laura x
True.
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Very impressive and helpful post for people in toxic relationships.
I agree. It is really challenging to move on from a toxic relationship. You should be more optimistic.
True, it takes a lot of time and energy to come out of such a relationship.
Good article, agree. I really know what a toxic relation is and how tough it is to deal with a toxic person. They are actually harmful for your life. I feel they need counselling.
Yeah true.
Counselling is really important considering the amount of trauma, the person goes through.