Hello Everyone,
Thank you everyone for the love and huge response to my previous post and coming back to my blog.
This blog can be treated as a continuation of my previous post Best friend to strangers.
In this post we will discuss, how we can go ahead and mend the broken friendship. I will just put my point of view, and try to suggest some points, to remedy the situation.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ~Mother Teresa
We human beings have this behavior of judging people, we love judging every single people those who come across us, we don’t even give a discount to our closest neighbors, best of friends, strangers and even family members. May be not in our conscious mind but I am pretty sure, we all do it in our sub conscious mind for sure.
In this case, once we are far away from our friends, it just adds up a point to judge.
Well, that’s enough reasoning for now, let’s see what we can do to remedy the situation.
Giving your ego a little discount on this season
We all have our ego and may be self-respect sometimes which comes up when we are involved in a fight, no matter how small/big the issue is. We need to keep that apart from us, as much as we can. I know it is not fair at your part keeping the huge ego besides, especially when we are right but remember, the things that your best friend did for you, when things were all good and everything was working out between you guys.
Don’t hesitate/be afraid to initiate a conversation
We human beings are the blessed ones to have the power to speak to express ourselves, but we are not using that. We do need to speak our heart out, at least if not all the time but to make things all right. It’s completely understandable that he did not start a conversation, so why should I start? (you can go back and read the previous point once again)
Let’s not play the blame game at least with our best friend
This is my favorite part, not taking a single blame. We didn’t do anything wrong-never ever. Everything was right on my part, and I am the best one-self-sacrificing person, right? Good (Please refer to the first point and then come back). We both know, that there was a mistake in our part as well why not try to sort that out instead of passing the ball?
Apologize, what happened in your part
I know that’s the hardest part in the whole situation, apologizing for what happened in my part. It really takes a lot of thoughts and guts to apologize. But in this situation, we need to think and decide if that worth the friendship. It’s a fact that we don’t care for everyone in our life. But we all have special someone’s whom this discount can be given. If not for the whole situation, at least take ownership for the mistake that took place at your jurisdiction. The person in front will take out his mistakes and apologize. End of the day, you will be the happy one.
Avoid interrogation episode
What’s done is done, we can’t go back and change something. Questioning will make the other person uncomfortable, and it may put up a situation, where you both might get into a fight making the situation worse. Just tell them directly, what you feel, and what needs to be done to prevent the situation further, and the other person will take care of it, if he is really your best friend. At least-give it a try.
Try to forgive as much as you can afford
I know it takes a lot of energy, courage and will to forgive, and especially when we are right at our place. If not completely, try to forgive the other person as much as possible. I know in this situation our self-respect comes in to picture, that’s the reason I said, as much as you can afford. You don’t have to lower yourself, to save the friendship, if the other person isn’t worth of it.
This brings down to the conclusion of all the above situations: Give it a try.
Finally, make the friendship strong – stronger.
Trust me, once you guys have come back from a broken friendship, your friendship will a hundred times stronger than ever. You both have experienced the darker side of each other, and the side you know how to avoid. It also let you guys know the limit of each other. There is always a positive side of everything that happens in our life. Let’s take a moment out and fight for the positive things that we have instead of being a lonely person.
Please let me know your thoughts and suggestions in the comment sections below. Feel free to like and share the post with your friends.
Thank you everyone once again, enjoy the holiday season.
Really matured thought..” Give ur ego littlw discount ” is something we should aways follow.. But we indians tend to givw that the highest priority ?
so true :)
Thanks for this post, it was really meaningful
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I love this! Even best friends will have disagreements. It is important to see it through and fix it. Make your friendship stronger through it!
This a a beautiful message. Forgiveness helps us so much. It’s too much of a burden to hold on to anger.
so true :)
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So true and powerful. To handle a broken friendship like a mature adult and grow from it, both in the friendship and yourself. Great tips!
So true.
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Agree with all your points. Although sometimes I have found that I’m friends with someone just because I was ‘once’ friends with them. Does that make sense? So, we were childhood friends, grew up together & are friends now-but there is a disconnect. Obligation dictates we ‘have’ to stay friends…but do we? If we’ve moved on, surely it’s just ok to part ways on good terms.
So true.
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So true, we just assume we are right but sometimes we need to stop and take a step back. Evaluate, look from the other person’s shoes as well. It takes a lot to admit you are wrong and even more to own it and apologize but it’s about deciding what’s more important, your ego/pride or your friendship. Great post :)
So true.
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This is so important in a relationship! And we need to let our egos go sometimes to forgive AND to forget especially when it’s never really worth throwing away a friendship.
So true.
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One of my motto is to forgive and forgot. There are times where my coworkers will make me mad at something they think or do. But then, the next day, I forgive them and forget about it. Everyday is a new day.
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Agree! Misunderstanding is comman where there is love & friendship.
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Wonderful message. Indeed full of positivity.
Thanks for your kind words :)
Everyone needs to forgive each other to make the world a better place. Great post.
true :)
Ah! Forgiveness. This is tough but when we set aside ego and everything else, it will pave way for forgiveness. It’s not all about lowering ourselves to save the friendship. Rather, would you rather spend every second/minute of your life hating your friend or would you rather forgive and forget and put it all behind so you can move forward and live harmoniously?
Exactly, It depends from time to time, and even situation to situation.
We need to stay really calm to come to a decision :)
This is a great read, and yea even best friends have disagreements, and it’s important to know when we are in the wrong then we need to apologize, but that also depends on what happened between you two, it’s not always easy to give our EGO a little discount, but we need to be able to forgive our best friends, those are the people that we can depend on from time to time :D
true :)
Such a unique post. We ought to see through opponent’s prespective too and it may change the situation. Then we probable see our mistake and ask for the forgiveness.
Exactly.
I think it is imperative to showcase kindness and attempt to mend relationships, both new and old. So often we are on the defensive and inflate a situation that could have been resolved with dimple communication and understandings.
so true :)
Although it is good to get into the deeper source of the issue, you’re right that discussion or confrontation about it might just make the matters worst. Very helpful insight!
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I’ve tried to mend one old friendship and although we share tears and exchanged apologies things just weren’t the same.
Thanks for sharing your opinion :)
I totally understand, that things can’t be the same again, but at least you gave it a try.
True friendships are being tested by time and many arguments, and when two of you overcomes it then your friendships get stronger no matter how much distance you are apart.
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enjoy reading your sharing & some quite resonate too. True friendship gained from trust &built over time. cheers, siennylovesdrawing
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Awwww, what a heartwarming post this is. :’)
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This is a great post. Personally I have seen situations go from bad to worse just because of blaming or ego issues. To maintain a healthy relation you have to ignore these things
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Thank you, this is something everyone should read. Fixing things after an argument is important but no one gets taught how to do that.
True :)